My 30's

Friends Forever…or Just Until I’m Married

Quality vs. Quantity

When it comes to friendship, I go for quality, not quantity.  I feel it’s much more important to have a few, really close friends than it is to have 165 Facebook acquaintances.  Friendship, to me, is about having people in your life that you love, trust and can be completely honest with – no matter the topic.  True friendship is sharing, with no hesitation, your outfit is not flattering or your latest date is a complete tool.  Unlike a similar relationship between family members, friends are people you actually choose to associate with, instead of being forced to deal with your whole life.

I have two best friends, well - three if you include my boyfriend, that transcend the meaning of friendship.  Not only are they the most genuine and caring people I have ever come across in my life, they are also very entertaining.  These two women really have it all; beauty, brains, a great sense of humor and respect/empathy for others.  I have known each of them for the last 20 years, so in a sense, they are more sisters than friends.

With our Without You

I often wonder where I would be in life if our paths’ never crossed.  I would definitely be a completely different person, as these two helped shape me into the woman I’ve become.  They have held me up during some very difficult times, when all I wanted to do was fall into a deep dark hole never to return.  They have been there beside me, through good decisions and bad, playing devil’s advocate and head cheerleader.  My life would not be the same without these amazing women (…and my son & boyfriend of course!!).

I find it difficult to imagine anything ever coming between the phenomenal bond I share with my two bffs.  We’ve already been through so much, especially in just the last couple of years… birth, divorce, loss of a parent.  What could possibly change that now?

Changing of the Tides

I know that many women experience a change in friendships after marriage or having children.  They find that they can no longer relate to their friends that are sans husband and/or child.  Their circle of friends seems to shift with the changing tides, from shopping and cocktails to mom’s groups and double-date nights. 

My question is…Does it really need to be that way?

Am I the odd one for still having the exact same meaningful friendships now that I am a mom and divorcee than when I was single and baby-free? 

I would love to hear your thoughts!

How have your friendships changed, if at all, after being married, divorced or becoming a mom?

February 21, 2010 at 11:41 pm Leave a comment